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Is it really sin?

31st January 2007

Is it really sin?

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Warning: deep thoughts ahead.

I realise that my blog posts up to now have been somewhat… fluffy. Recipes and such are great, but I do have a deeper side. Tonight it has revealed itself. My husband is out at the church with music practice and I was home, doing mom things and finally spent about 45 minutes on the couch torturing myself with Sudoku, listening to archived Family Life Today radio broadcasts on oneplace.com . One of the broadcasts that I was listening to was featuring author Martha Pearce, talking about her new book, the title of which I’ve forgotten.

During the broadcast she was talking about sins that are common to women (not completely uncommon to men, but more common to women), such as gossip. But she also mentioned PMS. Not that having PMS is a sin, but how a woman deals with it can be. Essentially, simply because there is a physical reason for us to be on an emotional rollercoaster does not give us permission to act in a way which is contrary to what God teaches in the Bible.

Now, since January of 2003 I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding, so I’ve only had two periods during that time, so my experience of PMS in recent years is quite small. However, my body has still be been chock full of hormones because of all the baby-growing and baby-feeding I’ve been doing, not to mention that I tend to be an emotional person anyway (My dad used to say that it was the artistic temperment in me). so this is a subject that I’ve been thinking about a lot.

During one recent emotional outburst, where I was in tears over my behaviour towards my husband and we were talking it through, he said “Michele - you’re pregnant! Of course you’re going to be all over the place. I understand.” And I love that he understands, but as I told him, that does not excuse me for acting in a way which goes directly against what God teaches in the Bible. I don’t have the right to be shrewish, unkind, slothful, or any of the other things at which I excel :) Basically, I don’t have permission to sin just because my hormones are not balanced. It certainly does put things in perspective and give me an understanding of *why* I might be acting in a certain way and definitely gives my husband a bit of an understanding of why I might have just bitten his head off, but I still need to be putting off those sinful things and putting on the fruit of the Spirit.

After an even more recent episode where I was yelling at my kids (ironically, telling them not to yell in the house while I myself was yelling) I realised that my kids have no idea that because I’m pregnant and hot and tired it means I don’t always act rationally. They just know that mummy is yellling at them and they don’t always comprehend why. I don’t want their memories of their early childhood to be of me yelling at them, so no matter what emotional state I might be in, they deserve (and more importantly I believe it is required of me) for me to get control of my emotions and deal with them in a much more  sensible way, rather than sounding like a fishwife.

By the way, what in the world is a fishwife?

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  1. 1 On February 3rd, 2007, katherine @raisingfive said:

    This is a tough one. But it’s true. I understand why my children act a certain way when they’re tired, but that does not mean I don’t hold them to the standard (it may mean that I choose a different strategy for dealing with it, though). Why is it so much easier to deal with them, than realize I do it myself?

    A lot for me is knowing my limits. When I am overcommitted, tired, or distracted (pregant would fall in this category as well), I am much more likely to fall into “sin” with my tongue. I can look at my calendar and predict the days (whether physical or schedule-wise) when things will be challenging for me. That should help me plan wisely. Do I do it? Not always, but I’m working at it!!

  2. 2 On March 6th, 2007, Anne said:

    Way to go. I was so proud to see another woman call us to accountability for our wayward emotions. It is a rare thing to see and I am so proud that you are telling the truth, even though that is much harder than just blaming it on our hormones. Bless your effort.

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