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2009 May 8 » Philoxenos

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Meeting the neighbours

8th May 2009

Meeting the neighbours

**I thought I had already posted this. Originally written on Tuesday.

After all the fuss on Monday night about Precious not being able to go out and play with the kids down the street, we spent an hour outside with them last night. We had taken the dog for a walk and as we passed by the neighbours’ house we noticed all their toys and stuff outside, including a chair and a pair of shoes, so we knew they’d be back. As we were walking home we saw that they were outside playing again and Precious asked if she could play. I said no problem and she ran up to the girls and announced “I’m here!”

Their family has five kids and our family has three kids. But there were also three girls that live down the street that came out to play too so it was quite a crowd. The neighbour girls were very inclusive of Precious even though she is the youngest one. She had a really wonderful time.

Handsome was talking with the dad while he threw balls to his son. I talked with the mom and we both looked after our youngest ones. At one point I was talking to their neighbour about the new roses that he planted and we discussed a juniper bush that he wanted to plant (I hate junipers so I really hope he doesn’t put it right in front!)

At one point the girls started riding scooters up and down the street. Precious isn’t veyr proficient on a scooter, but boy did she try! She seriously lagged behind but she didn’t give up. She just kept scooting and scooting. By the time she was finished her face was bright red and she had some scrapes on her legs, but she was so happy.

The whole time this was going on I was so worried for her. Not that she would physically hurt herself but that she would be emotionally hurt. I remember so well what it’s like to be the odd one out, to not fit in, to want to be cool. If there is something I can do to help my kids not feel that way I want to do it. But of course they also need to learn that being cool doesn’t determine success or happiness. But when you’re a kid it sure does make a difference.

So we ended the night very sweaty and smelly but the kids were so happy. I’m always glad to get to know the neighbours more. It’s important for my kids to have other friends outside of our family. And with every person I meet I think “I wonder if they know Jesus?” I think it might be time for a block party.

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8th May 2009

My kids

I want to write for posterity’s sake, rather than for general public consumption. But you can read over my shoulder if you wish :)

I have three children, ages 5.5, 3.5, and 2. And I am so totally in love with my kids. It’s a lot of work to be their mommy. There have been periods of time when I wasn’t exactly excited to be around them all the time and actually dreaded spending another day wiping snotty noses, dirty bums, and handing out a million drinks of water.

But things are changing. My children are changing.

Precious, my oldest daughter, has made friends with some kids down the street and they have loaned her a scooter. Every day, nearly every moment, she wants to be on that scooter, practicing so she can keep up with the big kids. She keeps asking me when she can get a scooter of her own. Yesterday she asked if she could go down the street to play with the other kids. We could see that they weren’t outside but the mom had said she can always come and knock on the door and ask to play. I thought about it for a moment and realised that she could go down there by herself. I wrote a note to the mom and sent her off. I stood on the front lawn and watched her. She asked permission to cross the street first, after she knew it was safe. Then she scootered her way down the street, very serious about this new responsibility. A few minutes later she scootered back, after very successfully crossing the road, to tell me that the mom wasn’t home but the older brother would come get her when mom got home.

She was over the moon. I had let her go down all by herself. The whole time I watched her I was thinking - my little girl is growing up! She’s almost finished with kindergarten. She’s learning how to flip pancakes. She can sew buttons. She says hello to everyone she sees. She’s polite and respectful. She is so repentant when the Holy Spirit convicts her of her sin. She reads fluently. She is a pleasure to be with (most of the time). I love my Precious.

Cutie, the 3.5yo, is also changing. She’s getting taller. She can reach the water in the refrigerator door. She’s losing the super chubby legs she’s had since she was 4 weeks old.  She’s fantastic at sharing everything she has. She’s so empathetic toward other peoples’ pain. She is a little prayer warrior. She’s learning to read basic three letter words. She can write the first two letters of her name. She wakes up in the morning with a thousand questions, all before 7am. She is so proud that she now has her own real Bible, not just a Bible storybook. And she’s the best snuggler.

Then there is Little Boy, my 2yo. He got his first real haircut today - a buzz cut given by a friend of mine. He’s always got a twinkle in his eye and I have to stay on top of him to make sure he’s learning what it means to obey the first time. The other day he captured a small spider and just held two of its legs and watched for several minutes while it squirmed. I found him in the corner of the vegetable garden, throwing snails down and smashing them with his bare feet. He loves asparagus and cheese. He speaks more in sign language than with real words but that’s slowly changing. He is still using a pacifier at nights and sometime will sneak back in his room during the day and get it. He’ll come back into the living room, walking backwards so I can’t see it in his mouth, giggling the whole time so I can’t help but notice him.

I love my kids. I am blessed to have them in my life. I hope I have many more stories to tell in the future.

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