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2008 May » Philoxenos

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kids sick, short post

12th May 2008

kids sick, short post

Kids sick. #2 and #3.  #2 just a bad cold. Been laying on couch all morning, watching Dora the Explorer and listening to audio books.

#3 vomited through the night. So sad for a wee little one like that. He slept until 9:30 this morning and went back to bed about 10:30.

To do list for this morning:

cancel all activities for tomorrow

wash A LOT of sheets and towels

take a shower to wash off lingering smell of vomit

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8th May 2008

sick little girl

My 2 year old girl is right this very minute asleep on the couch. It’s only 10:27 am. About 9:30am she told me she was tired and I suggested she lay down on the couch. She got her pillow and laid down and promptly fell asleep.

She must be fighting something because last night she threw up all over Handsome. He called me at church and said “Please come. Vomit.”

Poor little thing. I’m just praying she doesn’t puke again because Handsome and I are supposed to be going out of town tonight. By ourselves. ALONE. We haven’t been away overnight since before Cutie was born. We’re coming up to three years now. Is it selfish of me to not want to tell my mom (who is watching the kids while we’re gone) that she threw up yesterday? Part of me wants to tell her, come on, it’s just a little vomit. See ya later!

But for some reason I don’t think she’ll fall for it. So pray for a VERY fast recovery. We’re leaving after music practice tonight, so she has another ten hours or so. If she can keep her stomach calm until then we’ll go. If not… I hate to think how long it might be before we have another chance!

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7th May 2008

Not of this world

I first arrived back in America last July. It is now May. I am approaching a year of living in America after being away for nearly ten years.

And what have I learned?

I don’t fit in.

In New Zealand it was always pretty obvious that I wasn’t from around there because of my accent. And that made it easy. We all knew from the beginning that I was different and we went with that.

Here in America it’s a little less obvious that maybe I’m not quite what I seem from the outside. Until I say something like “Can you please tell me where the rubbish is?” Using the word rubbish is always a dead giveaway. Oh, and when Precious says “Mummy…”  People expect me to fit into a certain box because of the simple fact that I’m an American. I should act a particular way, I should use certain language, be familiar with certain cultural icons.

Fortunately for me the advent of the World Wide Web made it a lot easier for me to keep up with various cultural changes and I’m not completely ignorant. I’m relatively well-read and what I haven’t read normally Handsome has so between us we’re able to help each other out.

But in the end, when it comes to the end of the day, I don’t fit in. Handsome and I talk about it a lot because, of course, he doesn’t fit in either. He’s now in the position I was in in New Zealand except he’s always getting asked to talk some more so people can hear his accent. But we don’t fit in. And we don’t fit in in New Zealand either. And if we move to another country we won’t fit in there.

My husband is a third culture kid  (go read that link if you don’t know what this is - it’s interesting reading as well as giving insight into my husband) but what am I? I liked one of the terms I read which was global nomad. Not to say that I’m a wanderer, but I simply don’t fit in.

I remember being in Seoul, Korea and getting off the subway, walking up the steps into one of the busiest shopping areas in the country. I can’t even begin to guess how many people were within a 500 metre radius. Probably 200,000+. As I walked down the street, surrounded and pushed by people, I felt so alone.

It is so easy to feel like that. Over the last several weeks I have thought about this a lot. I’ve felt quite isolated and lonely. Making good friends takes time. And to find just one person that I can really develop a friendship with requires so many hours of vulnerability and just plain time. And time is a precious commodity. But as I think about it, I’ve tried to put it into perspective. What I keep coming back to is that this world is not my home. I am a believer in Jesus Christ and as a result I will one day die and leave this earth and make my eternal home in heaven.  So a few years of feeling out of place is nothing compared to the eternity that I will be completely at home.

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6th May 2008

Refrigerator from heaven

I LOVE how God gives us amazing gifts.

Handsome and I have just returned from our date night - Costco for Polish dogs and then on to Best Buy and Lowe’s to look at refrigerators. Very romantic, I know :)

We had already decided that we wanted a refrigerator with French doors, which means the freezer is on the bottom and the refrigerator part is on the top with side by side doors. And we were pretty sure that we wanted the GE Profile. When we went to Best Buy we saw that Samsung made an almost identical version for about $300 less. Since we’re not brand loyal and we also discovered that Samsung helped GE make the Profile, we were happy to go with that one. But with a price tag of $2100 we weren’t in a hurry considering that we’re not moving into our house until the end of the month.

We went over to Lowe’s and nearly peed our pants when we saw that they had the exact same style, same maker, just one version older, for only $1299!! Turns out they had just received the new version, which we saw at Best Buy, a few days ago and put the floor model on clearance in order to get rid of it. The only difference is is handle on the freezer drawer and, seriously, it’s no big deal. The floor model also has a slight scuff on the side, which won’t be visible anyway.

I am so doing the happy dance. For those of you in New Zealand, you will think that this fridge is gigantic. And it is.  It’s nearly 26 cubic feet. I can’t find a picture that I can download, but here is a link for those of you that are really interested, which I suspect will only be my mother-in-law :)

And for those of you that are thinking, wow, that’s still a lot of money, yeah, it is. It’s a great bargain but we could still get a fridge cheaper if we wanted to. We decided to go for the ice/water in the door because Handsome is water-adverse and anything that will help him drink more is worth the investment. But this luxury adds another $500 to the price. And having a freezer on the bottom adds a few hundred as well. We’re looking at it as an investment in our health.

The only small minor glitch is that we have to get the stainless steel one. We had previously decided we would get white because A) our other appliances are white and B) it’s cheaper. However, one simply can’t pass up this kind of savings for the kind of fridge we’re getting.

And just in case we ever buy a frozen pizza, there is a special little place in the freezer for it. No joke! They call it a pizza basket or something like that. I don’t think I have EVER bought a frozen pizza. I’ll have to come up with something else to use it for.

Any ideas?

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6th May 2008

hanging out for a washing line

One of the first things we’ll do in our new home is install a washing/laundry line. In New Zealand homes this is standard. In American homes, not so much. My dad thinks we’re going to look like the Beverly Hillbillies. The fences are at least 6 feet tall and the back fence is even higher because we back onto a street. I don’t think the neighbours will even know it’s there.

Now that the outside temps are rising every time I turn on the dryer I can feel the temperature of our apartment rising.

Do you have a washing line? Do you use it? Do you use it year round or only in fine weather?

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4th May 2008

one box at a time

that’s how we’re doing our packing - one box at a time. Tonight we did three boxes, the entire contents of our hallway closet. One advantage to moving so soon after moving from another country is that we honestly don’t have that much stuff. Our goal now is to actually be storing things where they belong so that when we pack we’re able to pack it all together thus making the unpacking much easier.

To facilitate the whole packing/unpacking thing I have created the Twilight Zone box. You know how when you pack you find things, little pieces, that you know belong with something that you want to keep but you can’t actually find that thing at that very moment?  The Twilight Zone box is the place where we will keep those things.

23 more days until we own our own home!

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