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2007 December 12 » Philoxenos

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It’s all about perspective

12th December 2007

It’s all about perspective

Last night my dad called me just to check up on me, see how things were going. He does that sometimes. He used to do that when I was in New Zealand, too. He would often call from some random airport while he waited to board a plane or from a car when he was driving on some business trip. I like that my dad calls me. But that’s not the point of this post.

He asked how things were going and I said, well, the kids are asleep. They’re all alive. So I guess we had a pretty good day. He laughed. But honestly, sometimes that’s all we can hope for.

It’s been a rough week or so, with illness and cabin fever. It’s winter here and it’s getting pretty chilly, although nothing like what they’re experiencing in the midwest with heavy ice storms and such. But because of the cold and the kids being sick with various things I didn’t want to take them out to play, so we’ve been stuck in the house for most of the week, missing church activities and play dates and pretty much getting sick of our own company.

It’s during these times that I must really seek to get perspective. It’s so easy to focus on the negative things that the kids are doing, forgetting that they’re bored, too. They’re tired of being inside. They know they’re missing the fun things they normally do and it’s all because they’re sick which is something they have very little control over (I personally think it’s because we’re just not used to these American germs. No joke.)

So, late this afternoon I left the younger two with my mom and I took Precious, my 4 year old, out to do some things and go to AWANA at church. We ran by the house and the post office then we headed to Walmart. I don’t normally like going to Walmart in the evenings, particularly in December, but I had a good attitude about it. We dined at McDs inside, which Precious thought was totally cool. And then we did a bit of Christmas shopping for Grandma and Grandpa. And I discovered self-checkout, which is awesome.

But the entire time we were out, I was really focussing on Precious. I wanted to listen to what she was saying, answer her questions as intelligently as I could. You know what my favourite part was? Holding her hand. We held hands the whole time, except when we were eating. I don’t get to hold her hand very much because I’m usually holding the baby in one arm and the 2 year old’s hand in the other. The 4 year old I can trust to walk by herself if necessary. But tonight we held hands.

I watched her at AWANA as she got two more badges for her Cubbies vest. She’s growing up. But she’s still such a little girl. I’m so glad for nights like tonight when I can just be with her and focus on her instead of listening with half an ear while making dinner and watching to make sure the baby doesn’t stuff something horrible in his mouth and choke.

I sure hope I can remember nights like tonight when I feel like the kids will never learn how to tie their shoes or I think they’re going to grow up into big kids that will terrorise the neighbourhood or they’ll get scurvy from not getting enough Vitamin C.

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12th December 2007

double ear infection and culture shock

**I started writing this post a week ago. 

My son, nearly 9 months old, has a double ear infection. I took him to urgent care yesterday late afternoon. We’ve had a couple of pretty rough days because he has an ear infection, as well as a cold. He’s pretty miserable.

But my experience with the medical community has brought my heart rate up a bit as I’m experiencing a whole new kind of culture shock. Lots of words that I’m unfamiliar with - HMO, PPO - lots of ID numbers and letters that I’m supposed to know - group name, scheme #, policy holder whatzit.

In New Zealand, if my kids got sick, I went to the local doctor down the street. I didn’t even have to have an appointment if it was really urgent. I just showed up and they fit us in.  The nice doctor looked at the child, told me what he thought was wrong, often it wasn’t anything that medicine would help, but he always made me feel better and we’d go home, no money out of pocket, feeling much better for having a doctor checking it out.

The trip to urgent care cost us $83 and about two hours of my time. Then I had a prescription that I had to get filled, which took another hour of standing in line at Walmart (I didn’t stand in line the whole time.) That only cost $9, which I found interesting, but it was only amoxicillin, which is relatively common. At urgent care they asked me questions that I didn’t have answers to so we had to pay cash up front. I’m just glad that we had the cash. What happens to the people with sick kids that don’t have the money? Where do they go?

Generally I feel like we’re adjusting to life in America. We have a great church, we’re starting to make friends, we’re making new memories with the kids and our extended family. But sometimes things like this happen and I think - whoa. I don’t know what I’m doing. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do. And of course when I ask questions that seem stupid, because of course a 30 year old mother should know where to take her sick child and how to pay for it, they look at me like I just walked off a spaceship . I really want to just yell at them “HEY! I’m not weird! I just haven’t lived in this country all my life! I don’t know how they do things here!”

So, the adjustment continues.

And by the way, we do have insurance, but we’re still waiting for the insurance cards with all the numbers and stuff on them that are apparently more important in America than passports, which we have a lot of in our family.

And Little Boy is all better now, a week later. All the kids got sick and we’re just now able to go out again. It’s been a long week.

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